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Prying open the hurt box

By Ken / June 26, 2018 / Comments Off on Prying open the hurt box

It’s crazy how unintended and even unwanted experiences bring us to new circles of friends. How our lives shift in ways that once seemed unimaginable. I feel such a stirring as this summer unfolds. This comes in the context of helping other men cope with the loss of a child. So many guys—myself partly included—“gut…

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A gentle release

By Ken / January 17, 2018 / Comments Off on A gentle release

While preparing for prostate surgery more than a year ago, one of the most helpful practices I found was a meditative CD that helped loosen my anticipated pain and fears. I could envision releasing them through my toes and fingertips. This visioning practice, if you will, helped guide me for a successful result: removing cancer…

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Running with his best

By Ken / May 9, 2017 /

Three days before he died, Doug messaged me on Facebook for my birthday: “Burn a candle for me, old man,” he wrote. John Douglas Wright, I’m overdue to light that flame. Gregarious and loved by many, Doug was a light in our lives going back to junior high school, at least. A gifted athlete, he…

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Allowing the light back in

By Ken / December 21, 2016 /

Many of us know the disparity of the holidays too well. In what should be a time of festivity and joy, this season instead doubles down on our pain. The isolation from loss or other upheavals in our lives, such as the distance from estranged family members or friends feels magnified. Especially on this day…

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